wednesday white

One of my favorite things to do when we lived in Atlanta was go for an evening stroll after dinner.  I enjoyed seeing the warm glow of interior lights that revealed the tiniest peek inside each home.  I never quite knew what a home was like on the inside until this time of day – it was like getting a glimpse inside a beautifully wrapped package.  Some homes that looked so alluring during the day had a completely different look at night.  I was almost always surprised with the appearance of a home’s inside compared to what I imagined it to be…

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Much like homes, with people things are never quite as they appear from the outside.  We usually see what we want to see or what one projects to us.  We go about our day displaying what I like to call our best “interview personality.”  Smiling, offering pleasantries, and blurting a friendly “hi, how are you?” that solicits the nearly automatic response “great, how are you?”   There’s always more going on behind that “great, how are you…”  This reminds me of the ocean, as there is always so much more going on below the smooth surface.  By the way, this is how I would imagine one of the rooms looking inside of the home pictured above.

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In terms of my life, there are times I’ve been sailing along, not quite sure where I would land…but trying my best to keep steady at the helm.  Sometimes my sails are snapped in turbulent winds and all I can do is hang on.  Other times the water is so glassy and smooth that I soak up every possible drop, hoping the waves never return.  And there have been moments where I’ve had to focus so hard on basic navigation that I felt totally lost.

lost at sea

But I always find my way back.  That being said, I must confess that I’ve questioned certain experiences, wondering why in the world I had to weather that particular storm.  Sometimes I even look back and wonder how I ever made it through.  Or how I didn’t  jump overboard (ha ha).  Three things keep me from losing my sight and steering:  my faith, my husband, and our family.  This boat couldn’t float without them.  It would sink like a lead weight.  The beautiful thing about sailing through life is embracing the good, finding the lessons in the bad, and moving on with no regrets.  I work on that daily.

Today I’d like to go beyond the superficial “hi, how are you” with a different kind of question.

QUESTION:  what word or description would you use to describe your seas in life today?  I think today my answer would be “land in site.”  

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    Ella Grace May 15, 2013

    What a great post. It reminds me of Tom Hanks character’s experience at the end of Cast Away when he realized his wife had moved on in his absence and he was at a crossroad in his life, then suddenly saw a positive direction with a new relationship. We all go through these experiences. I think it is part of the learning opportunities of life and each persons is relative to their walk. I’m most empathetic to those who have lost someone close. That has to be the toughest. Being grateful for our close families and life’s true treasures are great place to start. I like to think we are painting our life portraits in vivid color instead of black and white and these crossroads are where the color is most found. Best always Seleta.

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    Penelope May 15, 2013

    Superlative. Love your sailing analogy!!! This post really hit home for me.

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    Cindy May 15, 2013

    Calm waters with a few choppy waves. Thanks Seleta. Love your blog this week. I can’t wait for each new post to arrive.

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    Lisa May 15, 2013

    Just keep swimming…

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    Alli May 15, 2013

    My chalkboard quote for the month in my kitchen is “A smooth sea never made a skillful sailor.” I love that quote and it perfectly describes my season in life right now. I have the sweetest 4 month old baby, but have recently had to return back to work and it is breaking my heart in pieces to leave her at school each day. I just hold tight to my faith, focus on JOY and try to remember that the Lord is my “life preserver.” Thanks for this heartfelt post. It’s sometimes nice to be reminded that behind the beautiful, seemingly perfect pictures of life we see on blogs there is a real person with real struggles.

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    Nicole May 15, 2013

    Standing on the Rock in the middle of slightly stormy seas today. Loving the house you pictured – pure prettiness :) Yes, there is land in site…

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    Kates May 15, 2013

    I am constantly reminding myself “someday you have to create your own sunshine” and “don’t let the perfect be the evil of good”! What you wrote is so insightful. I am torn every time someone asks me “how are you?” because I know they want to hear “I’m good” but in reality I am not good all the time, I could be great, wonderful, not so good, fine, etc just like everyone else.

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    Janice May 15, 2013

    I am what I am today because of all that I have experienced. The fierce winds have tempered me. The soft breezes have tenderized me. The stillness has touched me with it’s bliss. Wiser, stronger, and more loving am I today. Thank you Life for everything!

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    Myra May 15, 2013

    Beautiful and thoughtful post. This reminds me of a favorite passage of scripture, Acts 27:15….”The ship was caught by the storm and could not head into the wind; so we gave way to it and were driven along. ” Sometimes we must give way to the wind and trust that God will take us where he wants us.

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    Dawn May 15, 2013

    I’m still learning to sail, but I hope to master it someday.

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    Lori H May 15, 2013

    My waters are fairly smooth, with a wave now and then that surprises you and slaps you upside the head. I am not the best sailor and don’t have a good stomach for the rough stuff. :)

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    Tena May 15, 2013

    Steady As She Goes for me today.

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    tricia May 15, 2013

    Starboard ;)

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    Lizziefitz May 15, 2013

    Perplexed.

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    Corry May 15, 2013

    Currently with my husband in Afghanistan…I am at the “Just keep swimming…” stage of deployment but I am anxiously awaiting summer’s end when I can finally say we are in the “Land in sight…” stage. Praying for God’s protection and grace along the way!

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    pve May 15, 2013

    ahoy matie, right about now, time to “drop anchor”-
    pve

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    BethA May 15, 2013

    My seas are rough lately. But I’m focusing on keeping my eyes on Jesus, not the waves.

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    Portia May 15, 2013

    Lovely blog post Seleta. Yes when having days and weeks like this, it is good to stop every once in a while to check your bearings and count your blessings. My heart goes out to Corry in Afghanistan with her husband – and pray she and her husband are kept safe while on deployment.

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    Corry May 15, 2013

    Thank you Portia for your prayers! They are very needed and much appreciated….however, I teach kindergarten and after a long day with 22 five year olds, my sentences sometimes run together….what I meant to say was “Currently, with my husband in Afghanistan….” That lack of punctuation changed the message! He is there and I am back home with our three beautiful daughters just trying to keep my head above water. :-) Thank you again for your kind words!

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    Denise May 15, 2013

    Lost at sea……

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    Kathryn C May 15, 2013

    Turbulent!! but with paradise in sight :) Just got to hold on.

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    elaine May 15, 2013

    The day went really well. It’s been rough sailing for a very very long time but today was a calm
    Day at sea. Uhh. So grateful for all the moment s. Nothing extra ordinary just lovely the way the day unfolded.

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    Local Italian Plate May 16, 2013

    Coming and going. The tide is always coming in and going back out. Sometimes you take one step forward and at other times two steps back. What I’m learning is determination and dedication. And to enjoy the waves along the way.

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    CArolyn May 16, 2013

    If I let the Captain stay at the helm, my seas are smooth and peaceful even in a storm. When I try to be the Captain, I am all over the map. Most days I remember to let Him captain the ship.
    Wonderful post, Seleta. Thank you!!

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    Michelle May 17, 2013

    Shipwrecked…

    In January of this year, my active, healthy, hard working 74 yr old father was diagnosed with a soft tissue sarcoma. While we waited for his surgery date to arrive, he went into cardiac arrest and died on February 4th. My life came to a halt that day. I feel like a ship without a rudder with no sails and no wind. I have described the waves of grief as “Grief Tsunamis”. I had the most precious, beautiful father. It’s been so difficult to move forward. Shoot, it’s difficult to even move at all sometimes. I have no regrets nor anything left unspoken, and I am so thankful for this.

    This has been such a reminder to not take anyone for granted. Life is so unpredictable, just like those beautiful,warm summer days on the Gulf when suddenly a storm blows in from nowhere. I’m confident the sun will shine again on my heart, but oh sometimes I feel like my heart left with my daddy…..

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    Gabriella May 23, 2013

    Treading water.

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