The way I feel most mornings. Minus the fun of being on a horse.
By 6:30am today, I was in a race against the clock. A pervasive theme in the life of a parent. Shuffling my kiddos into the car, lunch boxes and backpacks in tow, we spun off to the carpool line only minutes before the dreaded tardy bell. A few lights and some frantic gulps of coffee later, we finally made it to the row of 20 cars coiled from the sleepy school road to the drop off area. Little voices chattering in the back morphed into whines…which seconds later became shrills of bickering about nothing. Suddenly my car sounded like a bag of cats being strangled. I hesitated to react. One deep breath. Two deep breaths. The best words I could produce with only half a cup of coffee in my system were, “stop it right now!!” Hmmm, no good. Couldn’t I be more original? More inspiring? It was too late. The angst had taken over. In an attempt to calm the storms, I blurted “somebody share a God thought.” Now this was hilarious. A knee jerk demand of spiritual inspiration to fighting kids. Nice. After hearing myself say the words with force and tension, I laughed to myself and thought, “what a way to inspire to your children.”
My 7-year-old thought for a second, then replied, “there is no spot where God is not.” My 9 year-old shrieked, “you always say that, stop saying that!! You don’t know anything.” Ugh. Where was I to go with this? Since we were sitting in a stopped car, I quickly googled on my phone “God thought Nov 6 2013.” I felt like googling “emergency quick-fixes for parent sanity.” Taking yet one more deep breath, I calmly read a few comforting words from the God thought I found online. And for the next few minutes, we had peace in the car before saying our goodbyes for the day.
The message was interesting “DO NOT JUDGE.” Ha ha. Kind of a zinger to my battling brood. Oh, and to me. Busted. Thought I’d share:
“When we find ourselves judging others, it is usually in the words we say or think. We judge them based on what they wear or how they look. We judge them on what they do or don’t do. We judge their opinions, their political or religious beliefs. We are full of judgement. God tells us not to judge or criticize each other.”
Luke 6:37 is a good scripture
I love this thought. Not always easy to apply, but good stuff.
I recently read that the best way to experience peace and happiness, is to disengage the ego, which basically has three needs: to control, to seek approval, and to judge.
Imagine the world we lived in if we didn’t try to control, seek approval, or judge. My new challenge is to recognize those three triggers: control, approval, and judgement. I’ve been trying really hard, it takes work! And it’s very interesting when you can identify those three triggers. The good news is life is so much easier when you eliminate those three things. I think it takes dedication and conscious thought, but the peace that comes with it is so rewarding. It certainly isn’t easy, it’s even a challenge for children!
One step at a time. One moment at a time.
Cheers to a day filled with peace , happiness, and no judgement : )