wednesday white exchange

We’ve made it to the middle of the week.  Not sure what you’re February has been like, but mine has been packed with plenty of activity and all kinds of demands.  Some days I feel really strong and inspired, other days I feel totally zonked.

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Today’s post is completely for you.   A moment to stop, breathe, and relax.  Maybe work has been extra demanding, or you have a newborn who doesn’t sleep much, or you’re struggling with getting pregnant, or you’re raising teenagers (ahem), or you’re tired of shoveling snow, or you’re facing a medical issue that is scaring the crap out of you.  Whatever it is, relax and take a deep breath.  Know that this little blog is a place you can visit without worrying about expectations, deadlines, judgements, or pre-conceived ideas.  This blog is a place of comfort, understanding, support, and kindness.

A GIFT TO YOU… Let’s try something FUN and NEW!

  1. Leave a comment saying one challenge you have – or something on your mind.  It can be as simple as “I’m tired” or as long as you like.  Use a fake name/fake email address if you prefer.  No one will know who you are – not even me!  
  2. After posting what’s on your mind, leave an encouraging thought to the commenter above you – it does NOT have to be a solution to their challenge, just a kind word, maybe share your favorite positive saying or quote.  Remember there is NO judgement here.  Only encouraging words.

I’ll post my comment first to get things started : )  The next commenter under me can say what is on their mind then say something encouraging/positive to me.

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Thanks for trying something new – this could be so cool if we really go for it.

UPDATE:  Wow these comments are amazing!  Some commenters are getting skipped over because the page needs to be refreshed as the second commenter is writing.  Try to refresh your page then look at the two comments above yours in case someone gets left out – you can always leave an encouraging idea to two peeps.  Thank you – I’m reading all of the comments and loving today!!!

By Seleta | 45 Comments

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    Seleta February 19, 2014

    Entering new parenting territory as our children get older. I sometimes laugh that parenting is the only job in life we take on without any formal training, yet it’s the most important job we’ll ever have. Always on the hunt for positive ideas and ways to inspire/influence our young adults-in-the-making.

    Seleta

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    Jill February 19, 2014

    Such a nice way to spread positive cheer…who doesn’t need that…

    Challenge : My sweet mother in -law moving in with my husband , my son and I. She needs much care and I am now the “thinking” person for yet someone else…

    No doubt parenting is the HARDEST job we will ever do. Our son is going to be twenty..can hardly believe it. I think many of us especialy during the teen years are not always sure if we are “getting it right” and sometimes you have to get it wrong to get it right. Just when you think it is that hard…you have to remember, it is so hard for them too. Just when you have ones of those teen moments…they will turn around and amaze you..may be something big…may be something small…but you then take a step back and see them becoming their own person and know that you have been there to shape and guide that transformation …I often think how I miss that little people stage and the truth is ..each stage is AWESOME…Keep doing the good work…they will see it in time…they see and feel all the love .They are so lucky to have parents who love and care.

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    pve February 19, 2014

    Seleta,
    As always, you inspire, sparkle and shine and teach me to learn to polish on even on the days that might make me feel lackluster. Leading by example and loving by example is really all we can do….as a friend, a wife, a parent and a person of faith.

    Challenge; Working on a big fair for our High School all about wellness and with just a few weeks away, I am feeling nervous but excited. I want it to be great for the staff and the students.

    Jill; I wish you lots of love as you take in your sweet mother-in-law and I know she must feel incredibly lucky to have to to love her and to do the thinking for her. You obviously have many gifts to share so with each one, give with love. Good things will no doubt be in your future.

    pve

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    jody February 19, 2014

    Challenge: forgiving someone without re-trusting them. Being kind and generous and not vindictive while maintaining boundaries and distance.

    pve, in my high school speech class my teacher told us that being nervous is natural and helps us to prepare for important moments. As long as you let your nerves push toward being proactive and accomplishing your tasks at hand and not freeze you into passivity I just know that your fair will be a success! It sounds like you are doing your best to plan and prepare, and you have the well-being of the attendees as your highest priority–so you are on your way to a great outcome!

    XO!
    JM

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    Shauna February 19, 2014

    Pve: Being excited shows that you care about the information you are spreading…so I’m positive it will be great for everyone involved. Your fair will no doubt have a positive impact on the staff and students (and anyone else, including yourself, involved!) Sharing knowledge is a great gift to give :) (And coincidentally, I’m currently in a holistic health course to become a registered holistic nutritionist!)

    My challenge is trying to let go of some minor stresses. We sold our house last week and get our new house this Friday (we are staying at my mom’s house for this week). Because my husband just started his new business we cannot get a mortgage…so we are maxing out some credit and scrimping and saving where we can to buy this house. Trying to stay positive that it will all turn out for the best and this was a good decision!

    ps Seleta this is such a fantastic idea!!!

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    TT February 19, 2014

    Challenge: I’ve been back to work for 4 months since my 7 month old son was born. I’m struggling trying to get enough sleep, give my 6 year old the attention she deserves and carve out a little ‘me time.’

    JM, I’ve been in the same situation as you’re describing. It took me twenty years, yes, twenty , to finally let go of the anger and realize that the person I loved so much wasn’t as perfect as I wanted them to be. I shouldn’t have wasted that amount of time focusing in what the other person did…my time is too valuable. Forgive, smartly, for yourself and your well-being. The more you practice being kind, generous and non-vindictive, the easier it will become. Good luck and have a blessed day.

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    Candi February 19, 2014

    Challenge: I am six months pregnant with my first child and took the glucose test this morning for gestational diabetes. I’m praying for good test results!

    Tt: Maybe get a sitter on your day off for the 7 month old and have a mommy and daughter spa day in the morning for you and your daughter. Spend some relaxing one-on-one time with her and then pick up your 7 month old when you’re more rejuvenated. Good luck and God bless!!!!

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    Johanna February 19, 2014

    tt: I never gets truly easy, but you will be just fine. Your priorities shift and everything falls into place, even though you might not be able to see it right now. Take a deep breath, and enjoy this busy time in your life. When your kids get older, you’ll wish you had this time when they are little back.

    Challenge: My husband got a promotion, which is a wonderful blessing, but his hours are so long that I hardly ever get talk to him, the kids are asleep when he comes home, and he is just wiped out. Suddenly all of the kid’s responsibilities fall on me which is a ton of shuffling around and exhausting. I guess I just want to be the mother that my kids need me to be, and the wife my husband needs me to be.

    Seleta: This is great. Goodness, it felt good to put that into words.

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    sarah February 19, 2014

    challenge: working through a difficult situation in a setting where i am no longer allowed to make requests that things be done differently. and it involves my kids. praying that God will give me grace to face each moment, but i’m sad.

    johanna: i can’t imagine what it would be like for my husband to be home every night after the kids are in bed. i will pray that you can carry on with the extra responsibilities and that you will find time to have with your hubby. this is what you have been given to carry at this point, trust that you will be able to do it with God’s grace.

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    Kimfrom3peanuts February 19, 2014

    Johanna–Congratulations on your husband’s promotion. I know in this time and economy, we need to be grateful for such things. I am sorry it has been a hard adjustment for you all. It is so hard to have more responsibility fall on you. My husband has been traveling overseas a ton and I feel like a single parent sometimes too. I really try to find things each day to be grateful for so that I shift my focus. Maybe a Saturday afternoon “date” with your hubby will help since you have less time to connect. Another thing that has helped me si I give my kiddos more jobs to help me out (making lunches, walking the dog, vacuuming). I don’;t know their ages but asking them to pitch in more is good for them and good for you. Here is a virtual hug(())

    My challenge: I never seem to get done what I need to get done. I have adrenal disease so my energy is lower than most people but I just feel constant frustration over not accomplishing what I set out to do.

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    Kimfrom3peanuts February 19, 2014

    Sarah–we were both writing at the same time…so I will respond to you too:

    I cannot imagine how frustrating that would be. I also cannot imagine giving up that control or input. Obviously, I don’t know the situation but I will pray for grace and patience. Unless it is a divorce, I cannot imagine not being allowed to have input in my child’s life. You can do the best for your kids while they are with you and put them in situations that lift them up not tear them down. All the best,
    Kim

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    Sally February 19, 2014

    Kim- I’m sorry you have adrenal disease. I feel the same way and struggle with
    my workload. Sometimes I try to just embrace it and be proud to be the kind of person eho feels guilt when I can’t do everything I feel I should. Some people don’t care, and that’s so much sadder.
    One practical tip that makes a huge difference for me and my children is the 37 thing fling, based on one of the flylady’s methods. We put away or organize 37 things in eachroom, and then we’re done. (I almost never stop there, but just knowing I could is such a psychological benefit.) It’s also just enough to transform an annoyingly cluttered room full of bookbags, shoes, footballs and pillows back into a soothing space. Im about go put away 37 pieces of vlean laundry right now. :)

    My personal issue is migraines. Never had a single one before my 8 year old was born, now dealing with semi-chronic/clustering mild to mid-level migraines. Today’s is resisting 1 fioricet, 4 ibuprofen and 2 Aleve. If anyone hss any tricks or tips, I’d love to hear them! :)

    I hope maybe thst helps a little!

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    Kates February 19, 2014

    Kimfrom3peanuts – I am unfamiliar with your disease but just know there are people out there cheering for you! Take pride in the baby steps towards your bigger goals. Remember we can only eat a meal one bite at a time! Hugs Kates

    My Challenge – I am currently looking at which school to send my children too. She will be starting kindergarten in the fall and I am so nervous for her. The school that my husband and I choose will be the ones where all our children will go and the choice is hovering over me like a huge elephant!

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    Sally February 19, 2014

    (Ugh-sorry for disjointed sentences and typos. Darn Kindle.)

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    Nicole February 19, 2014

    Great idea, Seleta! I’m an encourager at heart, so this is totally speaking to me.

    My challenge is homeschooling our youngest son. I want to do it with excellency and enjoy this year that we have been given together. It can be easy to get caught up in the topics to be covered and tasks that need to be accomplished, but I want to truly make it a special time for us and make memories as this will probably be the only year I homeschool him.

    Kim – Oh, that to-do list can really sink us, can’t it? I can’t imagine fighting a disease that saps your energy in addition. Funny, we are learning about the endocrine system right now and were just talking about the adrenals! One of my favorite sayings is, “I hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection.” It is counterintuitive to the standards we as women tend toward and certainly to the standards our busy culture places before us. I try to limit my to-do list to three things per day and let the rest go, then I remind myself to celebrate what I did accomplish rather than what did not get done. Life is too short to fret about what is not getting done!

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    Nicole February 19, 2014

    Oh Kates, sorry I missed you! Schooling choices are tough. We thought we would track our kids on the same path starting out, but in time we came to see their unique needs warranted change. As a result, we have since sent our children to different schools based on their individual needs and have actually ended up homeschooling our youngest for a year. It’s crazy! I don’t know your exact situation, but I want to encourage you to cut yourself a little slack and know that things don’t always work out the way you expect them to. You sound like a caring parent; you will make the best choice for your children no matter what! Good luck! :) Nicole

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    sophie February 19, 2014

    dear nicole, you are not alone. those were words written to me in a letter dropped off in my mailbox by a neighbor who noticed that i have a 23 month-old, 16 month-old, and a 3 month-0ld packed into a fabulous, mid-century modern, 1900 square foot home (read: not big family friendly). i stay at home, and it’s the hardest, most rewarding job i’ve ever had. i am exhausted and exhilerated. every.single. moment. and when i read that letter it was like reading a prayer. “you are not alone.” that’s for you. :)

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    Kimfrom3peanuts February 19, 2014

    Sally,Kate’s and Nicole thank you. You all helped me. Sally my middle school son and I both get migraines. My son used to get 4~5 a week. A way, biofeedback helped him a lot . He has only had one in the last 8 weeks. Mine are hormonal but an essential oil call M-graine has helped me. I got it on amazon. It is pricey but works. Magnesium also helps and we both take it daily. One excedrin and one Maxalt helps my son if he does get one.

    Seleta GREAT idea. These gals made my day!

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    Jane February 19, 2014

    Challenge: My adult daughter (28) is struggling to find her way and has such a “glass is half empty” view of the world. I don’t know how to help her. Any ideas would be helpful!

    Kimfrom3peanuts …. I never seem to get done what I need to get done. I have adrenal disease so my energy is lower than most people but I just feel constant frustration over not accomplishing what I set out to do. …..

    Kim: For me I’ve always found that making a list of what needs to be done helps so much. Once it’s down on paper, I can then see what can be put off for another day and what’s reasonable to get done today. And crossing off a couple of the smaller, quick-to-do items helps me feel a sense of accomplishment. Then move on to something else and get at least part of that done and pick up the next day when you have more energy.

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    Kathy February 19, 2014

    Hi Jane! It’s hard to watch our kids struggle. Keep declaring positive things over her out loud so that will get used to hearing positive thoughts. I’m probably more like your daughter, and it helps me when others speak in a positive way over me. I will pray, too, that God shows your daughter exactly what step to take next. It can be so overwhelming, but I know that God will give her peace. I hope that helps a little!

    My challenge is our 14 yr. old son. It has been so hard lately. We have 6 kids in all, but right now he is the only one that I am truly concerned about because of his behavior. Our home doesn’t feel peaceful right now and sometimes I feel it must be my fault.

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    jani February 19, 2014

    jane… you can try to do a gratitude journal with her. the best advice i can give is to a constant role model. be grateful for everything ` every little thing yourself… it is catching as i have found.. not always easy but definitely worth it. instill in your daughter how great, how talented and loved she is, believe in her – her ability to find the answers… find out how to find them…

    Challenge: i have my niece and nephew by marriage living with me for a few months.. i have no privacy at all as they are insensitive to such things..and i’m one who needs a certain amount of solitude to recharge.. i work full time and there isn’t much time…

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    Dianne February 19, 2014

    Kathy with 6 kids your 14 year old may be acting out just to be noticed. I think the early teen years are the hardest. Having taught school for many years, now retired, I think all children just want someone to listen and understand. Try not to confront him but instead ask him questions like “Did that action ( whatever it was) have the result you were going for? Turn it around so that he thinks it was wrong and you did not have to tell him. Hope that makes sense. They really do grow up and become nice people. :)

    My challenge is my young adult daughter is meeting her birth mother for the first time this weekend. I pray it goes well. Please pray with me. :)

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    Jennifer M. February 19, 2014

    Dianne – I send positive thoughts and prayers for you and your daughter! I can imagine you both feel nervous – just keep thinking all of the positive thoughts!

    My challenge – after 18 years in the same position I know that my job has worn it’s welcome. It is no longer exciting and that wears on both me and my clients. I’m scared to think of trying something new and interviewing for a new job!

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    Nicky February 19, 2014

    Jennifer M: I feel the exact same way as you do, I”m transitioning into a new career field. I’ve research for years what I wanted to do next, and finally I accepted now I am ready for the change. Stay positive, the job you want is out there and you can find it, it takes time, be patient. Practice interviewing with friends, and do a mock interview by yourself on skype. Best of luck!

    My challenge: I tried to conquer some much at the same time, I loose focus and productivity at home and at work. I need to balance my work, home, life better than I do.

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    Kathy February 19, 2014

    Dianne – Thank you I will also be praying for your daughter.

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    DDB February 19, 2014

    This post was perfect timing…to read my blogs and feel spoken to AND productive and encouraging, thank you Seleta~

    My challenge: My husband and I have been guardians for a 17 year old for 4 years now, she is an amazing girl with a challenging background and thrives in most areas of her life…right now we are going through a tough patch emotionally and it’s draining my everything. It’s been weeks but feels like no end in sight and I just pray for a breakthrough for her, it’s a constant weight of heaviness and overflows into all we do.

    Nicky – I’ve been working through sinus issues over the last year and feel your issues with lack of focus and productivity, it is very frustrating. I am a ‘list’ person, however, I’ve had to track my lists differently. I’ve found recently if I literally write just 2-3 things on my daily list at a time to keep referring back to and staying focused on the tasks at hand it keeps me focused and I feel like I’m getting things done. I also feel challenged in balancing work/home/life, I have high standards for wanting to do both the required and fulfilling things in life, it’s not easy…I know I feel better when I carve out me time, an hour at the bookstore does wonders for me – hang in there.

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    MONICA February 19, 2014

    My challenge: recovering from bunion surgery not being able to go and do is so frustrating. I am trying to appreciate the fact that this isn’t permit but I just want to walk the dog and run and play tennis! Im just turned 51 and am feeling frumpy and grumpy, especially when I look in the mirror! Where did I go?

    ddb- Anyone who is a guardian for a child is already a saint in my book. Sometimes it is a challenge to love your own teens let alone someone else’s child. I admire you for sharing your life with this young girl. I am sure that you have changed her life in beautiful way. Teens are hard but whatever it is just keep loving and keep praying. This too shall pass. Take a little time for yourself. Treat yourself with care. It doesn’t have to be big but it can revive you for the next round. I will pray for you and your sweet girl who is so blessed to have you and your husband in her life. BIG HUG!

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    patsy February 19, 2014

    Monica- You’re still in there! Get through your recovery and you’ll be back to running and playing tennis in no time! And it will be with your new and improved feet. Mirrors are tough judges, once you can get out and about, look into the faces f the sun, of flowers and of small children. They’ll smile back at you and you’ll feel more beautiful for it. Sending YOU A BIG HUG!

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    Dianne February 19, 2014

    Shauna I think you got skipped in the crossover. I read your challenge and wanted to respond. Congrats on your husband’s new business, I wish him much success. A new house is always a financial decision no matter how much money we all have. It is the single biggest purchase most of us make. Try to enjoy it and make it home, a retreat for your family to feel snug and secure with so much newness in your lives. Time will answer your questions but worrying today doesn’t help anything. Easier said than done I know. Good luck.

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    Elizabeth February 20, 2014

    Jennifer M – it’s scary at the best of times to change career, but to do so when it would be easier to take the more-known path is brave beyond words. If you feel brand-new and unqualified, just remember the wonderful experience you bring; all best wishes and positive thoughts to you for sticking to your courageous path.

    My challenge: I have so many things to achieve that I sometimes scamper to the end of the week without looking up and breathing and I need to find ways to remind me to stop and look out of the window sometimes or I’m going to miss it all…

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    Michele February 20, 2014

    Elizabeth: That you have the energy and enthusiasm to scamper through your week is great. Just remember to relax and enjoy the ride too. Carve out time, even if it’s just a few minutes, to do something each day that brings you joy.

    Challenge: Stressing about a re-org at work. After four months of waiting for the news, we’ll find out on Monday how much our 50+ person division will be reduced. Up to 40% is a stress-filled amount.

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    L February 20, 2014

    Elizabeth, bless your heart, that is something we are all striving for. The possibility to do it all, while enjoying it all. I wish you the best on your challenge and please take some time to realize that you are enough and take an inventory of your blessings. That always helps me come back to my center when life get’s out of control. Wishing you the best.

    My Challenge: Seleta spoke right to my heart when she said “trying to have a baby.” It has been a long struggle for us and sometimes I just feel hopeless. The hormones I take make me feel like crap and a good day is when I have enough energy to stay up until 10pm. It is hard to try to live ones life and not think about it, when your energy level is a constant reminder of your struggle. *Sigh* I know a lot of other women deal with this too. We just all don’t talk about it much.

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    Sean C February 20, 2014

    I, understandably so, I know what you are going thru. My wife and I thought that we wouldn’t be able to have a child. After trying absolutely everything we were successful. My wife had our first and only child at age 38. We are very fortunate and I pass along love, comfort and happiness to you. It will happen. And, I know it’s easier said than done, but BREATHE, this too shall pass and you will it come to you.

    Challenge: not that big…..just tired from lack of sleep and a very LONG week.

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    diana February 20, 2014

    Candi (#7) – prayers for you that your test results are negative and that you and your baby remain healthy and sound over the next few months and beyond – what an exciting (and sometimes fear-filled) time for you!

    Sean C – thank you for sharing your experience to encourage #32 – lovely. my encouragement is very cliché, but here goes – TGIF! Friday is almost here and I hope that you’re able to rest and recoup over the weekend. I hope – because I know sometimes the weekends can be even busier – that you can carve out a little time to regroup…

    Seleta, what a wonderful idea! Thanks for creating an uplifting moment for us all today. I know I’m not contributing a challenge, but instead I’m just taking in the fact that we’re all walking through our own challenges each and every day. The kindness and empathy we share with each other can take us so far…

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    Dawn February 20, 2014

    Challenge: Getting motivated enough to exercise.
    Diana: You are a great encourager! I hope you have a fantastic day today.

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    Ginger February 20, 2014

    Dawn: That’s a toughie! When there is something I’m not motivated to do, I try to focus on small steps. I just read an article about short bursts of exercise scattered throughout the day being more effective than long ones. Great news, right? Cause who has an hour to spare? Even if you only manage one, 10 minutes is a good start. Plus, you have the satisfaction of working towards your goal. Turn up the music and go for it! Dance until you’re smiling :)

    Love this post, Seleta, because thinking about my challenges helped me improve my perspective. My blessings are greater than my worries, for sure.
    Probably twenty years ago I wrote down a quote from Christopher Reeve. It was after the accident that left him paralyzed. He said, “Ask me what’s wrong and I’ll tell you in a minute. Ask me what’s right and we can talk for hours.” I don’t know if that statement was original to him, or not, but I thought it was so powerful and so true for all of us.

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    Sarah February 20, 2014

    What a lovely chain of comments! Ginger posted an inspiring quote instead of a challenge, so I’ll respond to Dawn’s too. Finding motivation to exercise can be so hard! Try starting with just a walk with your family. If you live in a frosty climate like I do, it’s even more important to get outdoors. I really think going outside each day helps keep away seasonal depression. Also, I just downloaded an app called Lift that helps you track your goals. Pushing the big checkmark button is surprisingly satisfying!

    My challenge: Like I, I’m also struggling to get pregnant with #2. I know that regret is a waste of energy, but I find myself filled with regret for all the time my husband and I selfishly spent on our own lives before we knew how much joy being parents would bring! I’m 33 now and I wish we had started much sooner, even if it would have been more difficult and inconvenient.

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    TG February 20, 2014

    Ginger : that is an inspiring quote. I try to think that way every day. As my husband and I entered our almost empty nest years he was laid off. He was able to find a job with a great company, but it is 2000 miles away! We have been traveling back and forth for three years and do not see each other for weeks. It is extremely hard, but we are holding on so one day we can retire and live here at home. Christopher Reeves words are my feelings exactly, but it still hard most days. PS You did not share challenge.

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    TG February 20, 2014

    Sarah, you were blessed with time alone with your husband and then time with your first born. Enjoy this time and before you know it you could be blessed with a second child.

    My challenge: as we were about to become empty nesters my husband lost his job. We were very lucky he found one he loves, but it is 2000 miles from “home”. We travel between the two towns, but can go weeks without seeing each other. I try to focus on all our blessings, but the days can be lonely and hard missing him and my son away at college. I do have my other son at home.

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    ISP February 21, 2014

    I missed this post and this lovely idea earlier this week. So I am catching up late in the game.

    TG- I hope you see this. What a challenge that is. I can only imagine what a challenge it must be to have your husband so far away. That would make my heart hurt too. I can tell you though, from my own experience, that nothing in life is permanent. This too shall pass. No job is forever and with a little luck your family will hopefully be closer together soon. Maybe try and enjoy your one on one time with your son while he is home. And realize that the time you now spend with your husband is truly quality time. There won’t be a moment when you don’t appreciate and love being with him and the socks left on the floor (or whatever) won’t really bother you at all.

    My challenge: I’m a mom to an 18 month old, a wife and I work full time. I struggle with balancing my time with my baby, husband, friends, family and work. I never feel like I am doing anything well enough. As we consider expanding my family, I am so scared this feeling will just grow and I won’t be able to give the people I love most enough time and attention…and my job will suffer.

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    JJ February 21, 2014

    Dear ISP: I remember feeling the same way! It’s tough when you require yourself to go above and beyond in all categories of life; I bet you’re a bit of a perfectionist…maybe a people pleaser at times? The essence of being a perfectionist causes you to feel like you’re in a state of constant under-achievement. But alas, you’re not! You just need to put to pen a few reasonable things that would make you feel like you’re being an awesome mother/wife/self/employee, etc. Refer to the list on a daily or weekly basis and set out to accomplish items on that list. Then, you’ll see just how much you actually do! (Make the list do-able: i.e., do monthly special outing or craft with baby; kiss hubby before heading to work; see girlfriends once a month; workout 2 days a week.)
    One last thought: It may feel like you don’t have enough time/love left for another child, but it’s amazingly easier to have two children versus one. Plus, an added bonus of adding another child to the mix is this — your 18 month old will love and play with that new baby. This actually reduces your workload and brings such joy & satisfaction.

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    pve February 21, 2014

    Seleta,
    I am sharing this on my blog today. Thank goodness for you and for FRIDAY! Let’s have an inspiring weekend and spread encouragement.
    BIG bunch of white flowers to you!!!!
    pve

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    MacFam February 22, 2014

    For all the exercising posts: I have been inspired to ‘move’ by my FitBit bracelet. Hubby bought it for me for Christmas and I LOVE it! It has an app on my phone that shows me my steps/day, sleeps cycles, and so much more. I can set goals for myself and have friends for accountability/support. It has really motivated me to get outside instead of (name your chore of choice here) that will always be waiting for me. I’ve become addicted to the endorphins!

    My challenge: savoring each moment with these three precious people and one loving husband that I’ve been blessed with. I want to keep my perspective and boundaries against becoming too busy to enjoy relationships. Ya’ll check out this cute movie I watched with the hubs on our anniversary… “About Time”. I love the message bc it’s in keeping with cherishing people and time. Happy Weekend, All!

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    J. Newman February 25, 2014

    Great idea Seleta!

    Challenge: Diagnosed with Stage 2, Breast Cancer on right side by the lymph nodes on Nov. 11, 2013 went for a double mastectomy , my decesion on Dec. 20, 2013 the day after our only sons 11th birthday & I was home for Xmas to celebrate even more! I found it myself and possibly saved by own life at age 51. Been married 20 yrs. our only son was my 40 birthday present (planned & have been blessed) been doing mamos since age 40 and never a problem, I’m a wife with a work, life, balance ethic & this minor setback was not going to dictate my future, I’m “a let’s get this done now & move on gal”. Have 16 chemo treatments on #5 & then the reconstruction surgery, and we won’t take life for granted anymore and make each day count. Our faith & skilled doctors saved my life so I can be her to see our son graduate high school, college & have a successfull life filled with love and meaning! I pray that in my lifetime their is a cure for cancer!
    My motto is: You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have!
    Thanks Again for this great plateform from Houston, Texas

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    Seleta February 25, 2014

    Hi J., thank you so much for stopping in to share. I wanted to leave you a message in case there were no more comments, but first I have to say YOU are quite an inspiration! Your spirit, faith, and perspective are incredible. Your son is very fortunate to have you as his mother. With those precious gifts, plus the love and support of your family, I have no doubt you will sore through this challenge. 11 treatments to go, you can do this!

    I strongly sense from your comment that you are a pillar of strength an inspiration to many around you. Keep up your strength and rest as much as you can. You are clearly a go-getter, and this short season will bring loved ones in your life who will share their strength and support with you.

    You have demonstrated that giving of your light can touch so many. Such a blessing. Please stay connected and know that my prayers are with you.

    Seleta

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